So I don't know if im over reacting but i would really like some advice.Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now and our relationship is pretty serious we live together and even talk about marriage. well recently we were going threw our things and he found a book of cd's that had a bunch of pictures of us and some really old ones. as he went threw them there were some of him and ex girlfriends and some were really explicit i guess would be the way to put it. He said he was going threw all of them and when i asked if he would be getting rid of them he said no because they were his memories. Now i have pictures of my ex but they are put away in a box at my parents house and they arnt explicit ones either. I am not asking he delete and burn all his old picture just the explicit ones?
Well I can agree about the memories and yes they should be just put away in storage and out of your site as to not disrupted the relationship. Yet at the same time you must understand that those photos came from a different time of which no longer exists and by you asking him to destroy them shows an insecurity on your part to him.
Which could make anyone upset. I am assuming that he and you got upset right?
Do not be insecure about his past when he is being loyal to you and except that you were not the only women in his life like he must know that he is not the only man in yours.
Be happy in knowing that he is there for you in the present.
Regardless of the content of the photos, the situation isn't that bad. If the only thing you have to complain about in your relationship with your boyfriend is some pics of past relationships, you should consider yourself lucky. Look on the bright side, he's not cheating on you and at least he was honest about not getting rid of them.
Now, you might think about sitting down with your boyfriend and telling him why you want the pictures gone. Chances are he doesn't realize that those pictures make you unhappy. If he doesn't see your reasoning, he isn't going to want to get rid of the pictures.
Permalink Reply by MDS on January 18, 2009 at 10:38pm
Well, I'm sure that when he goes 'THROUGH' the photos, he's not really remembering the female so much as looking at 'explicit' material in general. If you have no problems with him looking at Playboy, or porn--- then you shouldn't really have a problem with him keeping them. AS LONG AS he's not actually leaving them OUT where anyone can see them or if he's constantly staring at them... THEN make an issue. If he's got them stored away somewhere out of sight, chances are they are also out of mind... unless he happens to go through the box they are in.
Don't worry about it. It's no biggie. Just keep an eye out for him asking you to take the same type of pictures.
Fellas women do this all the time. It's called a memory box. so they can remember when other people thought they were hot. Don't stress on it it a small thing.
So you can quote every line of every letter every girlfriend has every written you? I guessing no. That's the whole point of the box of letters and pictures.
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