Personally I see nothing wrong with it but I can understand why some prefer marriage before sex. It shows that you are committed to them and not just trying to get a piece of ass. Not to mention delaying sex makes the event so much better, once you and your partner are completely comfortable with one another and know each other on a very personal level then you can understand what the act means to them. To some it's a spiritual thing, to others it's just nature but knowing how they feel about sex and what they prefer before having it makes it so much better than just banging for kicks and giggles. (unless you're into that sort of thing.)
Pre marital sex is inevitable, but I don't think that, that makes it morally acceptable. I also don't think that people that have had sex and aren't married are evil bastards either. It takes very strong people to have that kind of will power, and self control. From a mans point of view having a wife that knows no dick, but mine would be pretty cool, and very rare in this day and age, but it isn't a deal breaker like it used to be.
I will never be married, so premarital sex is an abstract concept when you apply it to my life. I'm not religious and I feel no need to declare my relationship to the government..A wedding to me is nothing more than a party. Me chosing my mate requires no pomp or paper documents.
"Me choosing my mate requires no pomp or paper documents."
My words exactly . . . seven years ago. Still don't think the pomp is necessary. I do know now that sometimes, you have to make with the paperwork, at least in the U.S. For example, if you want your beloved to have access to your great corporate health benefits . . . or if you want healthcare for a child that you have decided to declare as your own . . . or if you want to be involved with his education . . .or when you become very ill, you want to leave your pet with your beloved, instead of having some bitter relative put the animal down.
I can't understand why people insist on holding sex as something so mystical and magical (someone even called it spiritual earlier) that it can only be shared my married couples. That's pretty retarded if you ask me.
It's not any of those things. It's an act... plain and simple. It's an act that's better enjoyed the more it's understood. The problem with people and sex boils down to it being such a taboo that this fact gets muddled with sentiment. Most people who try to explain the experience start off by saying that it's some wondrous gift instead of just making with the facts. But what does that get you?
You get partners who would rather talk to their friends about sexual uncertainties than the person with whom they're engaging in sex.
You get kids who are so hung up on the abstract, the metaphysics of sex, that they don't feel comfortable coming forward when something's wrong.
You have people who think that sex will mend the cracks in their relationship.
You get people who pay less attention to genital hygiene than they do to their feet in a gym shower. "We didn't use protection because we're in love." - Unfortunately, love won't heal those sores, kid.
I say get as much understanding as you can, as much knowledge as you can, as soon as you're ready. And don't be afraid to share what you learn ;)
Ignorance is not a prerequisite for marriage, I don't see why virginity should be either.