Dude Relax I'm Just kidding. Lately there has been a lot of talk about marriage.Enough was said to start a discussion. Today i was happy to see that we had new Unedited audio reviews, when i got to "27 Dresses" I wanted to make my thoughts known.
(Leon had posted something similar to this so make sure you check that out)
I have two questions "why are guys scared of marriage" and "why are women so pushy when it comes to marriage?" For me I'm in No rush to get married (not all females dream about it when they're 5).
I don't think it's cool to Bully or pressure a guy to do that and i don't think it's fair once they do give in and decide they want to, women to stop self maintenance.
And to the guys why do you guys generalize women? because it's not all of us!! I'm just curious i wanna know what everyone thinks.
korey don't worry all females don't fall for that "I need a man to live a full functional life" shit
Jerry Springer?! People who marry young rarely stay together for the next 30-40 years because that is a looooong time in today's fast-paced world. I think Korey says it best...there is always another, different "piece of ass" around the corner...
well i agree half and half on this and by that i mean this,.People can best decide when is best for them to marry it all depends on their level of maturity and commitment .
When Korey said that i don't think he really meant that (of course i could be wrong). I think if both parties make it clear to each other what they want and can offer, it could work...
If Korey (or any other guy) Came home to wife who kept herself up (still have him panting) and still manage to keep that spark that was there that made them fall in love in the first place can make it work.those two are the main important things once that's in place she has food prepared almost everyday, have the support system (because a real woman's ultimate goal when she's married is to build her husband up in everything he does, because when the world kicks his ass (and yes it will happen from time to time) when he goes home he know his chick has his back and she will do what it takes to cheer him up because she knows he's out there trying to improve life for the both of them) keeps him surprised. and has goals of her own then it has a chance... the reason why some marriages don't work is because it's rushed and people don't know what it takes to make it work. you got to be a fighter when your married because thats when real shit starts to happen.. girls try to take ya man and dudes try to pick up on your lady (then you have the INLAWS!!!! a whole new ball game.) but if the home life is straight then all that baggage is nothing....
Everything that has needed to be said on marriage has pretty much been said.I personally dont have a problem walking down the isle, if its with the right woman. But as for the fear of marriage, it comes down to even the LITTLE things.How about when the love of your life gets omfortable enough with you after a few years of marriage, and does not keep something as simple as her personal hygeine up?? Youd be surprided what a little armpit hair and face fuzz while youre making out could ruin your drive. Also on a personality level you need to be familiar with ALL of your mates quirks.Like how she responds to you 'whatever' and rolls her eyes...dont act surprsed and get annoyed by this when youre married, cause your @$$ shouldve known it before you got married.
Now on the issue of sex. As much as i love women, and as much as i respect marriage, sex while being gf/bf is loads better when compared to a longterm marriage. Maybe im biased but when i look around to people i know and even famous married couples they are either swingers or cheating on each other or trying out triads. It takes a good woman to care enough about all aspects of the relationship and not forget part of the reason why they fell in love in the first place. Oh well
p.s. typing this from my phone so excuse the errors.Thanks for the invite anita and for falsely getting my hopes up for a marriage in the email header heh
1. Men are not afraid of marriage, but they are concerned (maybe overly so), about being pressured into it by their girlfriend, and making a decision they will regret for the rest of their lives. I am in my late twenties, and I know guys younger then me who are already divorced and in court fighting for custody of their children. Not every relationship ends that way, but enough do that marriage is not something to be rushed into, and there are some women who don't get that.
2. This might be naive, but I think the reason sex goes away in long marriage is because you find other things in your partner to be stimulated by, and you don't need to do the wild thing every night to connect emotionally. This is only a bad thing if one person isn't getting their needs met, but that is more a problem with communication then libido.
Sex has never ever ever been a chore to me. Ever. Something I have to do. Are you kidding? It feels so phenomenally good I don't get how some women don't want that feeling all the time. I am probably the horniest person you'll ever meet though.
Damn i thought i was, anyway i think i shared way to much information.....Michelle they need an Intervention.... Guys i wouldn't be surprised if you looked at Michelle and i Like a bunch of..... what the hell ya'll are gonna think what ya want so ....ugh yea
nah i think if your in love and you connect emotionally, you would want to express it physically i would, maybe a little more then he would but sex is important to a marriage just as much as anything else. for Me i love to be around Happy people and when i get married imma make sure it's to a good dude and when he makes me happy (which is not hard , i don't ask for the impossible) I'll make sure he's happy and that's how we gotta think.